When you follow up with your plans for personal growth and change, there’s bound to be a consequent change in your closest relationships. The other side to your changes/growth is it may be threatening to a friend who is uncomfortable with change or just felling a little insecure. You may find yourself facing unspoken messages that say, "Change back! Don’t grow because I don't want you to!"
If this happens, you will face an odd decision what to do. You may choose to return to your old self and not change.
If you reach an impasse and the situation gets too rough, you may choose to leave the relationship or you may choose to take the risk of change and work toward helping your partner change. Of course, it won't be helpful to push her or him into change. It has to be seen as something desirable, so painting a visual and verbal picture of the benefits both of you would receive is probably the way to go.
Be patient and persistent, and try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Demonstrate self-respect and respect for your significant other as well. If real caring and intimacy exist in your relationship, almost any change can be worked out, and will eventually be another reaffirmation of your love and commitment to each other.
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